Prior to setting the case for trial, the Court will require the parties to mediate. This is a process whereby a trained mediator meets with both sides for 3-6 hours. Customarily the attorneys and possibly the accountant(s) are also present. Everything discussed at mediation is privileged and cannot be divulged by either party at trial. Information given by one side to the mediator cannot be divulged to the other side unless specifically released. The mediator is not the Judge. He/she makes no decisions in your case. They are there to facilitate settlement. They will never testify in your case so selling them on what a good person you are is a waste of time. They only care to settle your case. Rarely they will ask to meet with both parties present and normally the parties never see each other unless they pass in the hall on the way to their respective rooms. The mediator goes back and forth between the rooms. If issues are agreed upon at mediation, then a mediation agreement is written up, reviewed, approved by all and then signed. Once signed then it is presented to the Court and approved by Order. You can agree on all issues settling the entire case or a limited number of issues and then the unsettled issues will be tried. If you are unable to reach agreement and further mediation would not be helpful then the mediator will declare impasse and no further mediation is called for.